Facts About Sibling Sexual Abuse

There is not particular reason that from time to time I post articles I come across re child abuse or sibling sexual abuse – These victims are the most vulnerable sect in society to be abused, not believed and shamed.  Heartbreaking. Facts About Sibling Sexual Abuse By Amy Morin, LCSW Updated November 11, 2018   Elke Meitzel / Cultura / Getty Images More in Relationships Allegations … Continue reading Facts About Sibling Sexual Abuse

45’s Administration Quietly Changed the Definition of Domestic Violence

The Trump Administration Quietly Changed the Definition of Domestic Violence and We Have No Idea What For By NATALIE NANASI JAN 21, 20191:00 PM Without fanfare or even notice, the Department of Justice’s Office on Violence Against Women made significant changes to its definition of domestic violence in April. The Obama-era definition was expansive, vetted by experts including the National Center for Victims of Crime … Continue reading 45’s Administration Quietly Changed the Definition of Domestic Violence

How to beat Gaslighting: Defiance & Resilience – MUST WATCH!!!!

“The world is dealing with what I dealt with” for 5.5 years.  “There is chaos.  There is confusion.  Reality is being canceled and nothing means anything.”  My neck is no longer my neck but rather my shoulder, and I had all of the medical problems I do now before his attack. WOW WOW WOW!!! This is the best description I have come across that describes … Continue reading How to beat Gaslighting: Defiance & Resilience – MUST WATCH!!!!

Updated 1.20.19 “Drowning” depicts what it was like being with the coward

  Ditto! Her description of drowning and paralysis resonated with me. I felt I was drowning and was always panicked, never knowing when the next wave was going to hit.  The darkness and devastation this coward inflicted upon me was life changing, but I am a fighter and I am someone who fixes things.  I am hanging on because I am determined to make it … Continue reading Updated 1.20.19 “Drowning” depicts what it was like being with the coward

Narcissistic abuse and the brain

Neuroscience: The shocking impact narcissistic abuse has on the brain By Lachlan Brown  – November 17, 2017 Narcissistic abuse is one of the worse types of psychological abuse that one person can do to another, but unfortunately, many people are stuck in these types of relationships. Whether it’s a child and an emotionally abusive parent, or an adult with a narcissistic partner, the effect is the same—narcissistic … Continue reading Narcissistic abuse and the brain

Love

December 8, 2018 is the night I buried my abuser.  As his new relationship developed, it allowed for insight into his behavior with another person, and how it didn’t differ from the beginning of our relationship. Instead of feeling sad, I cringed and felt sad to have not thought more of myself.  . Now, let’s get to what I really want to talk about… I am … Continue reading Love

Trump!

I am not a Trump supporter but I am going to use the opportunity of him as president in demonstrating what narcissistic abuse is. Is that going overboard of seeing a positive in everything 🙂 Seriously, we have been and continue to get a dose of crazy making every single day so why not take advantage of it and use it as a teaching moment … Continue reading Trump!

This is what cowards do. This is what enablers and flying monkeys make excuses for. Karma…

I have not seen this photo in over two years.  I had cropped it to focus on the bruises – seeing it this way shocked me. My heart is racing – This is where I react differently.  The person who did this is a nobody but a violent coward who is flying high with his enablers and flying monkeys. Seeing my face makes a difference.  … Continue reading This is what cowards do. This is what enablers and flying monkeys make excuses for. Karma…

It is not JUST a broken heart – it is a BROKEN LIFE! —

  If someone tells you to ‘JUST GET OVER IT and MOVE ON,’ tell them YOU were emotionally and psychologically abused by a Narcissist. It is not JUST a broken heart – it is a BROKEN LIFE! JUST MOVE ON – the words that totally invalidate the process of recovery for a target/victim of this abuse. […] via If someone tells you to ‘JUST GET OVER … Continue reading It is not JUST a broken heart – it is a BROKEN LIFE! —

Anger Management? What a joke!

The abuser was arrested for assault after he attacked me, however, he pleaded down the charges for various reasons. One of them being the concussion I suffered from the violence that night that left me so scattered, I was unable to function. Coupled with PTSD I couldn’t get myself together enough to gather the texts and emails necessary to show he did in fact assault … Continue reading Anger Management? What a joke!

#metoo_narcabuse

Via Pascale’s Healing Journey by Pascal Samy Tell your story. Shout it. Write it. Whisper it if you have to. But tell it. Some won’t understand it. Some will outright reject it. But many will thank you for it. And then the most magical thing will happen. One by one, voices will start whispering, ‘Me, too.’ And your tribe will gather. And you will never feel alone again. L.R. Knost In my last post Getting Justice, I described how difficult … Continue reading #metoo_narcabuse

Are you a host?

The Narcissist as Human Parasite: Are You a Host? Julie L. Hall, Contributor Roving writer, author of The Narcissist Family 03/25/2017 12:11 AM ET | Gilles San Martin, Creative Commons Although narcissists would never admit it, they are by nature dependent on other people for their emotional survival. If they were loners, many lives would be spared immeasurable misery. But narcissists actively, persistently pursue others … Continue reading Are you a host?

“You’re doing me a favor when you push me around”

A tsunami is the perfect metaphor that describes my life and despite the destruction the abuser has brought into my life by emotionally and physically abusing me so severely that it knocked me off my feet, I am grateful for my children who every day remind me to keep going. The physical injuries he inflicted upon me are so severe I am now considered disabled … Continue reading “You’re doing me a favor when you push me around”

COVERT NARCISSISTIC ABUSE UNMASKED

Via Richard Grannon, Spartan Life Coach. An area of psychology massively under catered for: both a thorough understanding and analysis of covert narcissistic personality disorder and covert exploitative tactics and specifically how to treat the type of devastating long term complex trauma and damage to an individual’s psyche this kind of invisible abuse can cause. “But they seemed so good-hearted and vulnerable, I just wanted … Continue reading COVERT NARCISSISTIC ABUSE UNMASKED

A pat on the back — Pascale’s Healing Journey

Pat yourself in the back when you win. And when you don’t, just get moving! So long as you don’t stop moving, soon you may realize how close you are to winning! Chinonye J. Chidolue As the holiday season is starting, I am taking the opportunity to reflect on the year gone by. 2018 has […] via A pat on the back — Pascale’s Healing Journey Continue reading A pat on the back — Pascale’s Healing Journey

Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships: What Is It? — Fairy Tale Shadows

Narcissistic abuse in relationships is notoriously difficult to define. Narcissists are cruel. Narcissists can belittle, name-call, and shame. They fluctuate between “honeymoon periods” and “abusive periods.” They are often controlling and possessive, live double lives, and engage in serial cheating. Many may even engage in physical, sexual, and financial abuse within their relationships. Yet a […] via Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships: What Is It? — Fairy … Continue reading Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships: What Is It? — Fairy Tale Shadows

Power and Control Phases of Narcissistic Relationships

The author’s story is inspiring – would like to accomplish the same.  Published on January 10, 2015 Donna Hines  Founder ~ The Lost Self Life After Narcissism~ President George H.W. Bush Points of Light Recipient at Points of Light In order to understand the idealization, devalue, and discard phase of the relationship one must understand how narcissist energy is acquired and maintained throughout a relationship.When … Continue reading Power and Control Phases of Narcissistic Relationships

How Abusers Manipulate their Victims.

Shahida Arabi March 9, 2016 The Secret Language of Narcissists: How Abusers Manipulate their Victims. Society assumes that everyone has a conscience and the ability to empathize. In fact, 1 in 25 people in the United States are estimated to be sociopaths, according to Harvard psychologist Martha Stout. Narcissists (those who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder), sociopaths and psychopaths, speak in the language of … Continue reading How Abusers Manipulate their Victims.

What they don’t do to force their narrative.

I have so much to share, and someday soon I will, when I write my book about the length my abuser has gone to to rewrite history, bully and silence me. It’s the Jerry Springer  show – However, it’s really not funny considering my health issues have taken a dive, and the defaming that continues. For now I am going to relish in the joy … Continue reading What they don’t do to force their narrative.

Personal Authenticity Part 3: the healing power of truth — Psychotherapy, Counselling and Personal Development in Glasgow, Scotland

  When it comes to healing ourselves from significant troubles, distresses, wounds, afflictions and traumas that we may have suffered, the one thing that I have found to be of primary importance is clearing any and all impediments to our seeing the truth. Co-founder of Gestalt Therapy, Fritz Perls, referred to this as eliminating the “bullshit” […] via Personal Authenticity Part 3: the healing power of … Continue reading Personal Authenticity Part 3: the healing power of truth — Psychotherapy, Counselling and Personal Development in Glasgow, Scotland

2019

I am grateful to be walking and talking and will continue to do my best to establish a new life for myself.  I am registered for a race I use to partake in and have begun to explore what I hope to accomplish by being a non-profit.  In order to get to the end result I first have to lucidify my intent for what I … Continue reading 2019

This is why I am here

Reading  Shahida Arabi’s article reminded me why I am here. I believe wholeheartedly that it will only be through  sharing our stories that will bring awareness to how victims of abuse are treated, which then will lead to education, and change  in policy that is much needed as the current system and attitude only enables and coddles abusers and keeps the cycle of abuse moving. … Continue reading This is why I am here

“Drowning” depicts what it was like being with the coward

Originally posted on The Real Puppet Master:
*Disclaimer* I am not writing this blog for myself- I don’t need to vent, I don’t need to express emotions and I don’t need to whine about some boy- writing these things triggers me and brings back PTSD symptoms- it doesn’t benefit me at all other than letting me help other survivors relate to someone and bring awareness to… Continue reading “Drowning” depicts what it was like being with the coward

Women and feeling safe? Is that a thing? Def. not and here’s why.

Originally posted on The Real Puppet Master:
? ^^^^^^^ This is a knife that’s disguised as a key. That’s how unsafe women feel. We grab for our cell phones with 911 pre-dialed when we walk through empty parking garages or through streets at night. We tell someone when we go for a run through trails because we fear that we might not get back. We… Continue reading Women and feeling safe? Is that a thing? Def. not and here’s why.

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?

Published Saturday 17 July 2004 By Mary Jo Fay Do you see a preponderance of middle aged women in your practices with no particular physical disease process, yet a variety of physical and/or emotional complaints, including: insomnia, weight loss or gain, depression, anxiety, phobias, broken bones, lacerations, or bruises? Some may report an overwhelming feeling of emptiness or doom. Others may talk about or attempt suicide. These patients are … Continue reading Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?

“You’re insane, I never said that”

My fantasy is that someday soon both of us will be required to see a forensic psychologist who will look at emails, talk to his therapists, his friends, Wells Fargo, my psychologist and medical team, my friends and family, and then make an assessment of who we are. I found these article that describe what gaslighting is and began to give examples, but stopped because it … Continue reading “You’re insane, I never said that”

Narcissism and Abuse

Narcissism and Abuse August 30, 2016 / 43 Comments / in Get Help Today by Caroline, a Hotline advocate Trying to find an explanation for an abusive partner’s behavior can be an exhausting task. It is natural to want to understand how someone we care deeply about, who says they care for us, is capable of saying and doing things to us that are hurtful or even dangerous. Additionally, … Continue reading Narcissism and Abuse

A Narcissist’s Toxic ‘Love’ Will Make You Get Sick And Die

NPD ABUSE A Narcissist’s Toxic ‘Love’ Will Make You Get Sick And Die by Sela Rockwell  January 23, 2016 The title of this post is admittedly rather shocking but it is, in fact, an absolute truth: love partners of extreme narcissists invariably end up sick or dead. That is unless they are also narcissistic or have some other mental or personality disorder. The evidence stands for itself … Continue reading A Narcissist’s Toxic ‘Love’ Will Make You Get Sick And Die

Murder case sheds light on narcissistic abuse #npdfree

LORELLE SHEA, CONTRIBUTOR Published 12:10 a.m. ET Feb. 21, 2015 | Updated 9:56 p.m. ET Feb. 22, 2015 Editor’s Note: Lorelle Shea, 24, of Tinton Falls was involved in a volatile relationship filled with narcissistic abuse. She was drawn into his charm and didn’t know what was happening until the roller coaster stopped. She is sharing her story to raise awareness about this “silent love killer.” This story … Continue reading Murder case sheds light on narcissistic abuse #npdfree

WHO WE REALLY ARE – Some holiday thoughts, wishes and HOPE for the year ahead. — After Narcissistic Abuse

  We ARE strong, we ARE centered, and WE are loving people with empathy that got pulled into the dysfunctional chaos of emotional and psychological abuse from of a Narcissist’s dark world and lack of a REAL identity. Through all of this we lost ourselves. We gave up so much of who we are trying to […] via WHO WE REALLY ARE – Some holiday thoughts, … Continue reading WHO WE REALLY ARE – Some holiday thoughts, wishes and HOPE for the year ahead. — After Narcissistic Abuse

Year 1, 2012-2013, manipulative love bombing letter. First time I wiped his ass!!!!

When you get to the part where he describes himself as honest…LOL…well, he was lying as he was writing it.  This guy is a piece of work.  Wonder what bar or coffee shop he’s sitting writing his new vagina/supplier a book talking about how great he is. THE LOVE BOOK 2012 This was for 2013 – the year he took me to his parents house … Continue reading Year 1, 2012-2013, manipulative love bombing letter. First time I wiped his ass!!!!

Year 4, 2015-2016, manipulative love bombing letter. Third time I wiped his ass.

      2015 was a hard year because I couldn’t take the lies anymore.  I couldn’t take the gaslighting when it was happening but I didn’t know what it was or how to explain it.  I thought I was going crazy.  I was on a roller coaster ride and blamed myself but it wasn’t until after I cut him off that I realized it … Continue reading Year 4, 2015-2016, manipulative love bombing letter. Third time I wiped his ass.

How The Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse Changes Our World Views

JUN 8  Posted by ANA – After Narcissistic Abuse The word  “Trauma” is derived from the Greek term meaning “wound.” When targets encounter relationships with narcissists, what takes place is a human wound & trauma. When a person is wounded, there requires a time of healing; however scarring is often a result. During times of psychic trauma, our belief that we are invulnerable to harm becomes shattered. … Continue reading How The Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse Changes Our World Views

The Art Of The Narcissist’s Subtle Sabotage

The Art Of The Narcissist’s Subtle Sabotage: How Predators Set Up, Disarm And Destroy Their Victims By Shahida Arabi, February 27th 2018 Alex Stoddard Toxic people like narcissists and sociopaths destroy everything and anything in their path. On a larger scale, they ruin entire lives. Everything ranging from taking off with their victim’s hard-earned funds, carrying on double lives that deplete their families, posing irreparable, psychological harm to … Continue reading The Art Of The Narcissist’s Subtle Sabotage

The CON Bond! — After Narcissistic Abuse

  How did we get HERE? The false connection or ‘con bond’ that this Narcissist created in the beginning or that immense CHARM trap. The one where you bonded with the false image they projected. You trusted them and believed they were real as well as believing their intentions were real. More than likely you may […] via The CON Bond! — After Narcissistic Abuse Continue reading The CON Bond! — After Narcissistic Abuse

How the Narc stole Christmas

Originally posted on Pascale's Healing Journey:
Gifts of time and love are surely the basic ingredients of a truly merry Christmas. Peg Bracken Christmas and other festivals are always difficult times for those of us who are involved with people with Narcissitic Personnality Disorder. One of the worst memories of my relationship with him was Christmas 2015. Here is my story Dr Seuss Style… The… Continue reading How the Narc stole Christmas

Which Stage of Survival Are You: Victim, Survivor, Thriver? The Answer Isn’t As Easy As You Think

by Rachel Thompson May 1, 2016 At what point does a sexual abuse survivor (or any trauma survivor) go from victim to survivor, from survivor to thriver? It’s not as easy as you think. In our society, victim has a negative connotation (don’t be a victim! a constant mantra) however, in a purely legal sense, those of us who have been victims of horrific sexual abuse … Continue reading Which Stage of Survival Are You: Victim, Survivor, Thriver? The Answer Isn’t As Easy As You Think

Penalty for Lying on a Mortgage

I post articles on Mortgage fraud because of personal experience – I will never understand those who lie knowing what the consequences may be.  Abuser once told me a story about about an Architect/Engineer at Wells Fargo who had moved from one state to another and because he was in a hurry to buy a home, made separate deposits into his accounts to avoid being … Continue reading Penalty for Lying on a Mortgage

The Dark Neuroscience Behind Falling in Love: What You Need to Know

Unless you have lived through narcissistic abuse, you have no idea the hell victims go through.  We are left confused, isolated, questioning our reality and our sanity.  My abuser once told me to “do it and put him out of his misery” when I threatened suicide because I couldn’t deal with his abuse and the constant roller coaster, and truly believed if I was dead, … Continue reading The Dark Neuroscience Behind Falling in Love: What You Need to Know

Betrayal

    Fall afternoon. Crisp. Sun shining .  I taste the salt in the sweat trickling down your face. As always, happy you’re home. Your eyes mesmerize me. I miss you coming out of the shower, cutting up an apple and dipping it in almond butter. Grabbing the bowl before turning on the TV to watch Halt & Catch Fire. Leaning over, kissing me to say … Continue reading Betrayal

Why Victims Need To Be Heard!

January 24, 2018 by MeghanM By Jenn Rockefeller You did it. You left your abuser. But the abuse doesn’t seem to be letting up. In fact, the abuse is getting worse, from a legal standpoint. You’re being dragged through the legal system because your abuser is filing motion after motion, or contesting custody, or even because of a false protection order filed against you. Abusers … Continue reading Why Victims Need To Be Heard!

Don’t Be a P.O.W. to an abuser for life

From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @ https://www.amazon.com/Charm-Harm-Everything-Narcissist-Narcissistic/dp/1523820179/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468595784&sr=1-1&keywords=from+charm+to+harm SAY NEVER! We never, never, never deserved this and most assuredly NEVER, EVER asked for this abuse because of WHO we are. We wonder where our prince/princess charming has gone and WHAT HAS HAPPENED that made this […] via Don’t Be a P.O.W. to an abuser for life … Continue reading Don’t Be a P.O.W. to an abuser for life

Shame in abusive relationships

Originally posted on Spiritual Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse:
In an abusive relationship partners are typically poles apart in how much shame they experience. In an abusive relationship, each partner typically differs drastically in how they experience shame. If you have problems being abused in romantic relationships you very likely feel ashamed easily. This means that you feel bad about yourself easily and might be very… Continue reading Shame in abusive relationships

Why post personal exchanges?

Because they are meaningless, were used to manipulate and control.  He’s probably told the women before me and is will tell those who come after me. In her post, Getting Over a Narcissist Means Reflecting Love Kristen describe the  hollowness of the illusion we fall for and why getting over narcissistic abuse can be so challenging. Narcissist Means Reflecting Love I was ready at this … Continue reading Why post personal exchanges?

Emotional Rape.

“Ours were false relationships from the beginning in which we were targeted, exploited and betrayed.”  Via Donna Anderson – LoveFraud The quote above gets right to the heart of the matter of emotional rape. These were never normal relationships that started with love and then just went wrong. Far from it. The psychopath is a predator who completely hides his or her true identity and … Continue reading Emotional Rape.

The Vampire’s Bite: Victims of Narcissists Speak Out How do narcissists’ partners get their life sucked out of them?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. Evolution of the Self Because narcissists don’t think or feel like we do, it’s really not possible to establish a mutual relationship with them. And because we can hardly help but expect them to respond in ways similar to our own, their dissimilar reactions can confuse and surprise us— at times, deeply upset us as well. This post, a companion piece to … Continue reading The Vampire’s Bite: Victims of Narcissists Speak Out How do narcissists’ partners get their life sucked out of them?

He raped my soul, my heart, gutted and disabled me.

I have said it over and over and over that I am not a mental health specialist and that I do not know what, if any, mental disorders my abuser has or doesn’t have.  That said, being a victim of narcissistic abuse is what I relate to.  What he did to me feels exactly what this the article below expresses – I feel I have … Continue reading He raped my soul, my heart, gutted and disabled me.

Stages of Grief from a Psychopathic Relationship

From the Psychopath Free book, now available in Barnes & Noble stores everywhere and online at: http://Book.PsychopathFree.com The traditional 5 stages of grief are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. You will undoubtedly feel all of those at some point while recovering from the psychopathic relationship. But losing a psychopath is not like losing a friend/family member; it’s not like losing a regular, loving partner. Here are the modified … Continue reading Stages of Grief from a Psychopathic Relationship

The Gift of the Narcissist…Should You Choose To Accept It

 by Patrick John Coleman    Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.’ -Pema Chodron Narcissism is vastly misunderstood in our society. Many confuse it with simple vanity or a super-high interest in oneself. While you should have a healthy interest in yourself and be a little selfish when a narcissist appears in your life … Continue reading The Gift of the Narcissist…Should You Choose To Accept It

Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.

I’m here to share my story of abuse with my ex abuser, Vincent C. Beggs, Wells Fargo VP, with the hope for others to share their story without fear and the hope that someday we can make shaming the abused a thing of a past. I’m not a jilted lover nor unstable, same word he used to describe his ex wife when we first met … Continue reading Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.

Blog

Via The hotline People change. That small, two-word sentence is actually a huge, significant statement that carries a lot of weight. We grow up learning about change — the inevitability of it, the uncertainty it can bring. We change — our opinions, personalities, careers, friends and much more. Some changes feel like they happen overnight. Others are more conscious, and they have to be, like … Continue reading Blog

Psychology Psychological Murder: Death By Covert Abuse

Updated on March 21, 2018 Sparkster Publishing  Marc Hubs is a writer/researcher on mind, science, and conspiracy. He is the author of “Know Your Enemy: Reflections of NPD.”   Pernicious Abuse It goes unrecognized but it exists. It exists on an extremely covert level. It happens behind the scenes without anyone even being aware of what the problem is; the real problem. No evidence of … Continue reading Psychology Psychological Murder: Death By Covert Abuse

The One Major Thing That Makes Narcissistic Abuse Different — In the Shadows of the Fairy Tale

Narcissists are cruel. Narcissists can belittle, name-call, shame, fluctuate between “honeymoon periods” and “abusive periods,” be controlling and possessive, physically and sexually abuse, ruin someone’s finances, live double lives, and engage in serially cheating. They may do any of these things or all of them, and because of a systematic pattern of behaviors as tipped… via The One Major Thing That Makes Narcissistic Abuse Different — … Continue reading The One Major Thing That Makes Narcissistic Abuse Different — In the Shadows of the Fairy Tale