What they don’t do to force their narrative.

images (1)I have so much to share, and someday soon I will, when I write my book about the length my abuser has gone to to rewrite history, bully and silence me. It’s the Jerry Springer  show – However, it’s really not funny considering my health issues have taken a dive, and the defaming that continues. For now I am going to relish in the joy I feel of what January has in store for me as it is turning out to be great month, and it’s only the 4th.  My sense for the process doing what it is supposed to do is restored and I believe more than ever that when the fog clears truth will prevail!

Narcissistic people use denial as a brainwashing technique

Via Flying Monkeys Denied
What is denial? More importantly, what is Denial — the psychological term for openly denying have done, thought, or said something to another human being (especially in such a way that it provokes a triggering response from a target).

To bait or provoke then wait for a response is considered antagonistic; it is a truly offensive move (pun intended) on the football field of life, aggressively initiating an attack on a rival before they have even been informed that they are expected to participate in game playing the abusive personality already — while striving to dominate while attention-seeking — already started.

Narcissistic people who are Covert Narcissists by nature are those the most likely to have first used denial as a way to avoid taking personal responsibility for things, but Sociopathic predators are likely to have figured out how effective of a tool it can be to use as a brainwashing technique.

Sure, healthy couples have misunderstandings and miscommunications all the time. But psychopaths will intentionally say things they know will provoke you. When you react, they’ll turn the tables and blame you for misunderstanding. Often, they’ll even deny that they ever said it. This is called gaslighting — blatantly doing or saying something, and then blaming the other party for misinterpreting it (or denying that it even took place). The fact is, you understood what they said perfectly fine. They’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity. — Mind Body Green

People who listen to predators end up being prey. Victims of a Narcissist’s ploy to gaslight them into believing whatever they do or say is true often experience the worst of late-in-life wake-up calls.

Whether a parent tells you they stayed in an abusive marriage for the sake of the children or they deny moral culpability for inciting rage and feelings of emotional insecurity in a cheated-on spouse, the more narcissistic the person in general the more likely they are to pull the denial of accountability card.

Here’s the deal…

No matter how much it breaks your heart to hear them lie…

No matter how much you WANT to believe them…

If a person has a history of lying or manipulating other people for their own selfish gain or to avoid fair or lawfully just punishment for something they have said or done in life you simply can’t.

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Narcissistic predators have impulse control issues, period. They blurt out angry, irrelevant, ridiculously hurtful and demeaning things to their scapegoat targets all the time.

The ultimate situational abusers, they can be frothing at the mouth insulting a perceived rival one minute (assailing them with the most antagonistic and cruel-natured verbal attacks) then the next minute will deny having done or said anything either inappropriate, unethical, or outright false and/or factually incorrect.

The Denial expert will tell you that, “Denial is not a river in Egypt.” Abusive parents and caustic antagonists like Narcissists and people with anti-social personality disorders love telling children outright lies and manipulative gaslighting things like:

  • You misunderstood me.
  • I really don’t know where you/she/he/they come up with this stuff.
  • You’re crazy.
  • You need psychological/professional help.
  • You’ve always acted over-sensitive.
  • You/he/she/they are just making stories up, now.
  • You think too much.
  • You over-analyze everything.
  • How come you are allowed to do it or say it and I am not?
  • You’re just being dramatic.
  • You/He/She/They are just so angry all the time… I don’t know WHY they feel that way.
  • I was only looking out for you.
  • I did it for you.
  • It was for your own good.
  • I had to do XYZ… (fill in the blank).
  • I swear you are losing it. Do you need me to take you to a psychiatric hospital?
  • You must be imagining things.
  • I think you are hearing things again.
  • I never said that… well, I did say it — but it’s not what I meant!

The more malignant the personality, the more likely they are to tell a victim something to their face then deny that same statement in public or private later. The more anti-social the predator, the more they will strive to pull off such denial charades with some level of boredom-relieving flair.

Expect men and women who are masters of the art of denial to say one thing then do another. Count on if their lips are moving, they are probably lying.

Denial is something that should be ethical by nature. If someone has no knowledge of something or deny’s being involved with something (or someone), their answer should be true and factually accurate.

A person who cheats actively and openly on a serial basis then gaslights their spouse, friends, and family members into believing they are somehow the victim lies not only his friends and family. They lie to and about their spouse, their paramour or mistress, and reveal nothing but deep, dark, convoluted and wicked truths about themselves.

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Denial used to confuse and frustrate a scapegoat or preferred target in the hopes they will lose either their sanity, reputation, or be effectively brainwashed into doubting themselves or losing their cool? Bottom line, to do so — even for a narcissistic predator — is playing dirty pool. It’s a covert narcissist’s go to move for a handy-dandy brainwashing trick.

If a victim buys a liar’s false claim and gives he, she, or them credit for having a valid opinion based on their assertions, then the con is complete. A Narcissist only wins when they have a perception they have duped someone, conned, or made a selfish gain at someone else’s expense.

Denial, then, is simply a weak (meaning cowardly) Narcissist’s covert abuse tactic. That, or it’s the psychological refuge, conversationally speaking, of a truly deviant and malevolent person.

It’s like they live their life thinking they are in a true crime drama. Magically, Narcissists and Sociopathic predators alike seem to think that by looking a victim in the eye and denying having said or done anything malicious to them in private, the moral conversation will go down in cosmic history as “off the record”.

Last we checked any of the reference checks, the Bible, Koran, Hindu religious texts, and Confucian Analects all say the world and all-seeing entities like gods or an omniscient being don’t work like that.

Don’t be brainwashed by someone gaslightingGaslighting is covert Narcissistic Abuse at it’s finest.

3 thoughts on “What they don’t do to force their narrative.

  1. I haven’t read your blog broadly, but I can get a sense of how awful these experiences have been for you. In any case, I’ve had my own experiences of a narcissist and it was the ugliest period of my life. One thing I would say to people in general who have been on the wrong end of a narcissist (is there a right end?) is that they are black holes for one’s energy. Not just in your presence, but as soon as they get inside your head. It’s very easy to be drained by them by trying to right the wrongs they create, especially since they typically manage to convince others that their version of events is true and yours is false. The best thing is to completely disengage from these people because they are such utter poison and basically thrive on you devoting energy to them. It’s a trap.

    Hope you’re doing well.


    1. I’m much better now than I was. Believe me. I’m trying to make a positive out of the negative because the physical injuries I sustained are permanent and dictate my life. I would appreciate your honest opinion in what in the blog gives the impression I am trying to right a wrong. I’m curious because I’ve worked hard on accepting he will never ever take responsibility for what he did and that is being sorted out in court. I am really trying to focus on what I can do to contribute to this never happening again to anyone else. Thanks for the input. I really appreciate it.

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  2. I’d like to read your blog in more detail before I give you feedback because I’d like to be clear in myself before commenting. My previous comment is simply a broad appeal to anyone reading who may have been abused by a narcissist. I know what it does to us. It’s horrendously unjust and I know for myself that my desperate need for justice in my situation exhausted me to the point of breakdown. These people do something that I’m convinced happens on a spiritual level, not just a psychological level. It’s the closest thing to evil I’ve experienced, and I’m not a superstitious person at all.

    I’ll check in again when I’ve read a few posts and hopefully I can be clearer.

    Wishing you all the best for now.


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