Mandy Moore To Survivors Of Psychological Abuse: “You’re Not Alone”

The perpetrator who caused Major Traumatic Brain Injury and destroyed my right otolith (something that is common with war veterans) can’t seem to get enough of me, and is livid I no longer care what he thinks or says so he has reached a new low in trying to control me  through the system because he can.  I am not scared of him anymore in the legal arena because I realized for him to be doing everything that he is, says he’s scared of me because he knows what the truth is.  He is paying so much to his attorney authorizing her to do all sorts of things with the belief he’s going to get reimbursed.  No, losing hasn’t sunk in and he will lose because truth conquers.

As far as I am concerned what he’s doing should be criminal since what he and his ex wife are doing has hurt my health.  The time is now.  There is a lot of attention on victims and I am convinced my story will get picked up because the length he has taken to silence me is shocking – Time & patience and absolute belief that truth conquers is what keeps me going.  I am not caving to their attempt to bully.

ERIKA W. SMITH

Last month, Mandy Moore — along with six other women — said she was psychologically abused by her ex-husband Ryan Adams in an interview with the New York Times. “He would always tell me, ‘You’re not a real musician, because you don’t play an instrument,’” she said at the time. “His controlling behavior essentially did block my ability to make new connections in the industry during a very pivotal and potentially lucrative time — my entire mid-to-late 20s.” (In a statement, Adams called the article “upsettingly inaccurate.”)
Recently, Moore told Us Weekly that since theTimes report was published, many women have reached out to share their own experiences of psychological abuse. “That’s something that I’ve really kind of taken out of this situation. I had no idea,” Moore said. “So many women reached out to me, echoing… that the idea that psychological and emotional [abuse] is often swept under the rug, or not addressed or not talked about, or not considered in the same category of just general abuse.”
She added, “I’ve just been really emboldened by the support that, I think, myself and the other women that have spoken out in this particular situation have received. It’s really heartening. And heartening to know that other women can look to it as an example as well. Like, ‘You’re not alone. You’re seen. You’re heard. You’re acknowledged. It’s real. And I’m so sorry.’”  There’s another place where we give you ALL the goods.
According to the 2010 National Intimate Partner And Sexual Violence Survey conducted by the CDC, nearly half of both women and men in the U.S. have “experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner,” including behaviors such as name-calling, threats, humiliation, and control of activities. Research suggests 95% of men who abuse their partners physically also abuse their partners psychologically, and even if no physical abuse accompanies the psychological abuse, psychological abuse is still abuse and still harmful.
After the New York Times report was published, Moore described the abuse on the podcast WTF With Marc Maron. “It [was] an entirely unhealthy dynamic. I had no sense of self. I felt like I was drowning. It was so untenable and unsustainable and it was so lonely. I was so sad,” she said. “I couldn’t do my job because there was a constant stream of trying to pay attention to this person who needed me and wouldn’t let me do anything else.”

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