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I am here despite the fear I feel because it is how I stand up to being bullied, harassed, mocked, and accused of horrible things because I believe truth will prevail.

My abuser and his flying monkeys have trivialized the injuries I sustained and have chalked up my speaking up to being a jilted lover since it's easier than having to reconcile being an enabler.

I am far from jilted - Just the opposite, I am GRATEFUL to have escaped the violence alive. I am GRATEFUL to be sitting here without him. I am GRATEFUL because my neurologist told me to be for being able to walk and talk.

I will not be silenced, and that's that.

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Vesta

Vesta

On December 21, 2016, for the first and last time in my life, I became a victim of domestic violence. In the following months I learned I was also a victim of narcissistic abuse as a result of the 5.5 years relationship I was in. The constant gaslighting, love bombing, punishing and discarding left me questioning my own reality and sanity. If that wasn't enough, the justice system, and even professionals meant to be there for victims of abuse are not educated on what Narcissistic Abuse is that is where I intend to turn this dark period of my life into something positive. For every one of me there must be thousand of others suffering. We must work to change policies and laws to better protect women. As I see it, the only way to do that is to share our stories in order to change the landscape of what is deemed appropriate for victims of abuse. Why should victims have to stay quiet and not say a word about their abusers? Why are we expected to not only deal with the trauma and shame that resulted from the abuse, but then be expected to protect their identity. Why are we expected to not show emotion, and why are we deemed unstable if we do? I'm sick of it so let's shake things up and bring change where it's needed. Enough!

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