December 8, 2018 is the night I buried my abuser.  As his new relationship developed, it allowed for insight into his behavior with another person, and how it didn’t differ from the beginning of our relationship. Instead of feeling sad, I cringed and felt sad to have not thought more of myself.  . Now, let’s get to what I really want to talk about… I am … Continue reading Love

This is why I am here

Reading  Shahida Arabi’s article reminded me why I am here. I believe wholeheartedly that it will only be through  sharing our stories that will bring awareness to how victims of abuse are treated, which then will lead to education, and change  in policy that is much needed as the current system and attitude only enables and coddles abusers and keeps the cycle of abuse moving. … Continue reading This is why I am here

Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?

Published Saturday 17 July 2004 By Mary Jo Fay Do you see a preponderance of middle aged women in your practices with no particular physical disease process, yet a variety of physical and/or emotional complaints, including: insomnia, weight loss or gain, depression, anxiety, phobias, broken bones, lacerations, or bruises? Some may report an overwhelming feeling of emptiness or doom. Others may talk about or attempt suicide. These patients are … Continue reading Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?

Year 4, 2015-2016, manipulative love bombing letter. Third time I wiped his ass.

      2015 was a hard year because I couldn’t take the lies anymore.  I couldn’t take the gaslighting when it was happening but I didn’t know what it was or how to explain it.  I thought I was going crazy.  I was on a roller coaster ride and blamed myself but it wasn’t until after I cut him off that I realized it … Continue reading Year 4, 2015-2016, manipulative love bombing letter. Third time I wiped his ass.

Emotional Rape.

“Ours were false relationships from the beginning in which we were targeted, exploited and betrayed.”  Via Donna Anderson – LoveFraud The quote above gets right to the heart of the matter of emotional rape. These were never normal relationships that started with love and then just went wrong. Far from it. The psychopath is a predator who completely hides his or her true identity and … Continue reading Emotional Rape.

Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.

I’m here to share my story of abuse with my ex abuser, Vincent C. Beggs, Wells Fargo VP, with the hope for others to share their story without fear and the hope that someday we can make shaming the abused a thing of a past. I’m not a jilted lover nor unstable, same word he used to describe his ex wife when we first met … Continue reading Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.