December 8, 2018 is the night I buried my abuser. As his new relationship developed, it allowed for insight into his behavior with another person, and how it didn’t differ from the beginning of our relationship. Instead of feeling sad, I cringed and felt sad to have not thought more of myself. . Now, let’s get to what I really want to talk about… I am … Continue reading Love
I am a mom, a friend, a runner. I am somebody’s daughter. And on December 21, 2016, I became a victim of domestic violence for the first and last time – So that also makes me a survivor. The injuries I sustained from the abuser resulted in permanent inner ear damage and traumatic brain injury that have disabled me from living my life as I … Continue reading My Story
Reading Shahida Arabi’s article reminded me why I am here. I believe wholeheartedly that it will only be through sharing our stories that will bring awareness to how victims of abuse are treated, which then will lead to education, and change in policy that is much needed as the current system and attitude only enables and coddles abusers and keeps the cycle of abuse moving. … Continue reading This is why I am here
Published Saturday 17 July 2004 By Mary Jo Fay Do you see a preponderance of middle aged women in your practices with no particular physical disease process, yet a variety of physical and/or emotional complaints, including: insomnia, weight loss or gain, depression, anxiety, phobias, broken bones, lacerations, or bruises? Some may report an overwhelming feeling of emptiness or doom. Others may talk about or attempt suicide. These patients are … Continue reading Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A New Diagnosis?
Lies, lies and more lies. He’s good, isn’t he. This is how they reel you in…. Continue reading Year 2, 2013-2014, manipulative love bombing letter. Second time I wiped his ass.
More lies..more and more lies….I meant nothing to this evil monster. I am lucky to be walking and talking after what he did to me, said my doctor. Continue reading Year 3, 2014-2015, manipulative love bombing letter. The only year I did not wipe his ass.
2015 was a hard year because I couldn’t take the lies anymore. I couldn’t take the gaslighting when it was happening but I didn’t know what it was or how to explain it. I thought I was going crazy. I was on a roller coaster ride and blamed myself but it wasn’t until after I cut him off that I realized it … Continue reading Year 4, 2015-2016, manipulative love bombing letter. Third time I wiped his ass.
We are expected to act as if nothing happened. Not only that, but we are expected to lay still, sit in silence and take being gutted, defecated on, demoralized, and humiliated as our abusers try and destroy what is left; AND that’s exactly where we will find the strength in the nightmare we survived to create a movement by telling our story a little louder, … Continue reading No one sees the victims.
“Ours were false relationships from the beginning in which we were targeted, exploited and betrayed.” Via Donna Anderson – LoveFraud The quote above gets right to the heart of the matter of emotional rape. These were never normal relationships that started with love and then just went wrong. Far from it. The psychopath is a predator who completely hides his or her true identity and … Continue reading Emotional Rape.
I’m here to share my story of abuse with my ex abuser, Vincent C. Beggs, Wells Fargo VP, with the hope for others to share their story without fear and the hope that someday we can make shaming the abused a thing of a past. I’m not a jilted lover nor unstable, same word he used to describe his ex wife when we first met … Continue reading Careful…You don’t want to end up like me.